Rest in Peace

This past week I was honored to be asked to do the funeral for the son of one of my best friends.  Dustin was only 18 years old and died of unknown causes on Thanksgiving.  The funeral of a young man is always difficult but when it is sudden and unexpected the task becomes daunting.

I knew that I would be preaching before a large crowd of mourners at Dustin's High School.  What could I say?  What would offer comfort to both teens and adults who sat with broken hearts and looked on, seeking answers?  It has always been my habit and belief that the only thing that I can truly offer in these times is the Gospel.  And so that is what I gave.

The term "Rest in Peace" is so common to us all that we sometimes overlook the context.  Why have we been given these words to use during times of death?  Because it is a statement of faith.  Rest in Peace is not a request it is a statement of fact.  When a person puts their trust in Jesus and then orders their life in such a way that they seek to follow His way of love, then the end of temporal life becomes a resting from a job well done.  Christ Jesus has already done the hard work of defeating death.  He has already transformed death from a finality to a transition from temporal to eternal life.  There is no fear of the end of things for those who put their trust in God.  There is only peace.

Dustin's life was one lived to the benefit of others.  He reached out to all who had need and was a young man who did so selflessly.  His mother told me a story about how one bad weather day a couple of winters ago, Dustin got up early, loaded his truck with chains and jumper cables, and headed out on the highway just to see if anyone needed help.  It wasn't his job.  He could have been home, safe and warm and playing video games.  But he had a desire to serve others.  His was a life in which the Parable of the Good Samaritan was lived out.  I will miss Dustin and my heart grieves for his parents.  But I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that his life will always serve as an example of love for all those who knew him.  Rest in Peace, Dustin.  May Light Perpetual shine upon you.

Your Cheatin' Heart

Recently God has been focusing my attention on the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.  In part this has been because of the changes that have taken place in my own marriage.  The sudden change that takes place in the marriage when a spouse becomes paralyzed can focus your attention on the nature of your relationship and the commitment to the vows you have made.  But lately I have also witnessed more than my share of marriages breaking up for a variety of reasons.

 Over at the Washington Times, Cheryl Wetzstein has been looking into the recent announcement that David Letterman had been found to be cheating on his long-time girlfriend (now wife).  She comments on this by referencing a study done by the University of Chicago on Co-habitation.  The finding show that

"of 3,500 people found that 94.6 percent of cohabiters and 98.7 percent of married people expected sexual exclusivity from their partners.

But the survey found that expecting fidelity didn't mean getting fidelity, especially among unmarried people. Of married men, 4 percent said they had cheated on their wives in the past year. Of cohabiting men, 16 percent had cheated. And of single men with steady girlfriends, 37 percent had cheated."

Perhaps even more astounding is the fact that this tendency toward infidelity does not diminish when those who previously co-habitated finally get married.  Why is this?  The answer is fairly simple.  It is because marriage is created by God for something more simply sharing of expenses.

In the 1549 English Prayer Book, the beginning of the Service of Matrimony reminds all those gathered for the event that

"[Marriage] is not to be enterprised, nor taken in hand unadvisedly, lightly, or wantonly, to satisfy men's carnal lusts and appetites, like brute beasts that have no understanding; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God, duly considering the causes for the which matrimony was ordained."

How often is Marriage undertaken for reasons that satisfy only our "carnal lusts and appetites"?  Does the Church spend enough time teaching the purposes of marriage?  Or have we simply made marriage the door prize for not having sex out of wedlock?

Since the two people who are joined together are intended to live as a Sacrament, perhaps we as the Church need to spend a lot more time preparing couples to live this life according to God's purposes.

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My First Post

Ok.  This is the first time I'm attempting to do a blog.  It's kind of an outlet for me while I've got some free time on my hands.  If you find something here that interests you...please enter into the conversation.  I will, however, have a few rules (you knew that one was coming didn't you).

• Argue persuasively.  If you've got an opinion feel free to share it but do it with the intent to persuade NOT to denegrate.
• Vulgarity is the last resort of an exhausted vocabulary.  Although mild inflections may be used, vulgarity will be deleted.
• If you make a statement of fact, be prepared to back it up.

Alright.  Now that that's off my chest, let me tell you a bit about me.  I am a 42 year old Anglican Priest who lives in the Metro Detroit area.  For those who care about such things, I am a member of the Missionary Society of St. John the Evangelist, part of Forward in Faith North America and a priest in the Anglican Church of North America.  I serve as a Curate (Associate Priest) of Saint John the Apostle in Clinton Township.

For the last 14 years I have been overjoyed to be married to the most wonderful, Sicilian sprite.  We have two beautiful daughters who are the precious gems of my life.  Anna recently became a quadrapalygic so we are learning new things about committment and the Sacrament of Marriage.

I am an voratious reader and enjoy the beach, fall, World of Warcraft, preaching the Word of God and pretty much anything that brings the warmth of hearth and home.

Welcome!